A taboo emotion, yet everywhere
In open spaces and behind closed office doors, jealousy lingers. Subtle and rarely named, it slips into silences, glances, small remarks, and unspoken comparisons. In the professional world, however, this emotion remains a hidden taboo,masked by more acceptable terms like “competitiveness,” “challenge,” or “performance drive.”
Yet behind these celebrated notions often lies a more fragile, deeply human emotion: jealousy.
Jealousy ≠ malice: a mirror emotion
It’s important to understand that jealousy does not mean malice. It is a human reaction, often unconscious,triggered by feelings of lack or unfavorable comparison. It arises when someone else’s success, recognition, or ease awakens our own insecurities.
Jealousy holds up a mirror. It reflects less of what the other has, and more of what we fear we’re missingA colleague gets promoted? Doubts about our own worth may surface. A teammate receives praise? It may touch a part of us that feels unseen. Jealousy rarely speaks about the others it speaks about us. About our wounds, our unmet needs, and our unspoken doubts.
The workplace as a trigger
The professional world—with its hierarchies, targets, evaluations, and recognition systems—is fertile ground for jealousy.Constant comparisons are built into the structure: between colleagues, teams, performances, and careers. Everyone is being watched, measured, assessed. Often, one person’s success becomes the mirror of another’s “not enough.
Company culture plays a key role. A culture rooted in distrust, isolation, or scarce recognition fosters a low-grade climate of hidden jealousy. On the other hand, a collaborative, transparent, and caring environment can ease these tensions by affirming each person’s unique value.
The silent cost
When unacknowledged, jealousy can quietly erode the team. It fuels passive conflict, hasty judgments, subtle sabotage, and mistrust. It weakens communication, stifles trust, and blocks collective intelligence.It can lead to toxic self-comparison, where we waste our energy trying to “catch up” or “outshine,” instead of focusing on our own path.
Repressed or denied, jealousy doesn’t disappear... it solidifies into resentment, unspoken tension, and a heavinessthat weighs down the work atmosphere and weakens human connection.
Turning jealousy into a lever for growth
Recognizing jealousy is an act of courage and self-awareness. It’s admitting: “Something in the other triggers me, unsettles me, or questions me.” It’s an invitation to explore our own unmet needs, unhealed wounds, or hidden desires.
In that sense, jealousy can become a powerful signal for personal evolution.It can reveal what we truly long for, what we haven’t dared to claim, or what we still hesitate to embody. When welcomed without shame, it becomes an opportunity for alignment and expansion..
Toward a more conscious and human culture
In teams and organizations, speaking openly about jealousy—without blame or judgment—is a sign of collective maturity. It requires psychological safety,honest feedback culture, and a shared willingness to be vulnerable.
Leaders have a key role to play. By promoting collaboration over comparison, and by recognizing individual contributions, they shift the dynamic from competitive to creative.Where jealousy once divided, recognition connects. Where fear of lack once reigned, a sense of abundance can rise.
Conclusion: From shadow to light
Behind the mask of competition, jealousy reveals what we still need to heal, understand, and love within ourselves. It’s a delicate emotion... sometimes uncomfortable, always human. By naming it, listening to it, and transforming it, we take a step toward deeper emotional intelligence, and a professional culture that is more just, conscious, and alive.
True growth happens where doing meets being.
— Amal H.
Founder of Mentor Roots | Author, Talent Scout, NLP & Positive Psychology Coach
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